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Barbara Johnston's avatar

This is a beautiful article that I wish I could have read 50 years ago. The majority of my life has flown by in a blur. Now at 78, I’m looking back at all the transformative moments in my life and regretting my lack of awareness of their impact on my decisions and actions. Wish I could join this site and read/learn lmore.

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Kenya's avatar

Beautiful. Compelling. Thank you.

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Jamie's avatar

I enjoyed this piece. I had two synchronicities today motioning me to slow down and mark a tremendously huge transition in my life, shedding the old and stepping into a being very unknown to me.

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Seraphlyum's avatar

This is such a beautiful article. Really tugged at my heart and made me sit and think. It’s so true we have to take the time out of our overwhelming lives to just… be

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Howie Ichiro Lim's avatar

A very calming and retrospective piece on how we need to slow down and process the things that are important in life. We live in such a state of constant FOMO that we forget whats important.

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C. O. Davidson's avatar

As a teacher and writer, this essay speaks to me. Definitely when faced with BIG moments, we need to stop and reflect. That is, as you write, crucial, but we often are on to the next step OR, I also see that we’re removed from the moment by screens as we take photos or make posts without allowing the moment to sink in, to settle.

I think this is also true in daily life: we need these moments to stop. Solitude and disconnection from the outside world of demands and opinions is key to creativity and stability. But now I have a name for it: Room of Tears!

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Matthew's avatar

Nice essay! We do not always know when those transformative moments occur until we look back sometime later. But when we *do* know, taking the time to recognize them is, I'm sure, healthy on many levels... I have too often missed such opportunities

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gaby green's avatar

loved this! it feels like no more than ever these moments of solitude are so necessary

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J David's avatar

Fantastic piece of writing

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Margaret's avatar

Yes, take time to process events or trauma. Slower living and alone time helps us to cope 🙏

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Héctor Coss's avatar

Very good and timely. Congrats, thanks!

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bkxd's avatar

in a world of fomo and fast literally everything, its nice to be told its okay to take a breather for myself. in my own 'room of tears' thank you culturist very cool

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